Do you know why you love the way you do?
Your nervous system learned connection before you ever had a choice. And your attachment style explains the patterns you keep repeating.
Why do Attachment Styles matter?
Because once you understand your style, everything about your relationships starts to make sense. Why you feel anxious. Why you chase. Why you feel overwhelmed. Why you pull away. And why you keep ending up in relationships that repeat the same cycles. This is the starting point for growing toward secure connection that feels calm and real.
Hey, I’m CT!
I help people understand why they love the way they do through the lens of attachment styles.
If I knew in college what I know now, my last decade of relationships would have looked very different. Less anxiousness. Less overthinking. Fewer blind side breakups and emotional whiplash. I have been the one who tried to fix people. I have been the one who craved closeness. I have been the one who held the emotional weight of the entire relationship. Totally not sustainable.
Understanding my attachment style and the pattern I kept reliving changed everything for me. It was like someone handed me the GPS to my past relationships and I could finally see the patterns so clearly. Everything made sense. It changed how I date, how I communicate my needs, and how I choose people who can actually meet me halfway. Everything else is wasted energy.
Now I help others see and understand their own patterns so they can finally stop repeating them. (And yes, there is still the occasional bad date. It just comes with a much better filter.)
Three Ways to Jumpstart to Secure Attachment
The Four Attachment Styles
There are four main attachment styles. One is secure and the other three are insecure. Each shapes how we connect, communicate, and show up in relationships.
- Secure Attachment – It feels safe. There is comfort, trust, and emotional steadiness. Needs are met more consistently.
- Anxious Attachment – Connection feels uncertain unless it is constant. Reassurance becomes a core need.
- Dismissive Avoidant Attachment – Closeness can feel overwhelming because independence is prioritized above everything else.
- Fearful Avoidant Attachment – There is a push-pull dynamic. Craving closeness but fearing it at the same time.
Learning which one you lead with is the first step to breaking old patterns. And yes, everyone has a primary style. Even the people who swear they are “just bad at texting.”
Real Change Starts Here
You learned to connect in a way that once kept you safe. Now it is time to understand that pattern so you can start experiencing connection that feels calm, steady, and real.
“CT makes it so easy to drop into a real conversation. He naturally creates a space that feels comfortable, relatable, and safe to open up in. I felt heard, and it was easy to share honestly. He speaks about attachment and relationship dynamics with a mix of genuine personal experience and a clear understanding of the concepts, which makes it feel grounded and accessible. He has a calm presence that makes it all feel free-flowing and easy. It’s obvious he cares deeply about the mission he’s on.”
Forest C.
“CT has a way of making his coaching approachable yet practical. He helped me get clear on what I actually want, build confidence and take steps that actually stick. What I love most is how real and supportive he is. There’s no fluff. Just honest guidance that helps you grow. If you’re thinking about hiring him, don’t wait. He’s amazing at what he does!”
Angela W.
“What stands out about CT is his presence and the way he listens. You can tell he’s not trying to fix you – he’s trying to understand you. Conversations feel easy and safe, filled with curiosity instead of judgment. It’s rare to find someone who makes openness feel that natural.”
Sean O.
