About CT

I help people understand why they love the way they do so they can create relationships that actually feel secure. No fancy titles. No mystical dating formulas. Just real conversations about what makes connection work and why it sometimes falls apart.

For years, I repeated the same patterns without realizing it. Every relationship felt like a different version of the same story. I would get close, feel safe for a while, and then something would shift. Either I started chasing reassurance or they started pulling away. I convinced myself it was bad timing or bad luck. But it was really a nervous system that learned connection in a way I never understood.

When I found attachment theory, everything clicked. My reactions made sense. My fears made sense. My choices made sense. Awareness created clarity. Clarity made change possible. And once I saw my patterns clearly, I finally had the ability to show up differently. Now I help others do the same.

You cannot change what you cannot see. Once you see it, you can understand it. Once you understand it, you can choose differently. My goal is not to help you “date better.” It’s to help you feel safe enough to be yourself and to build connection that feels mutual, grounded, and real. My work is not about labels, scripts, or quick fixes. It’s about slowing down long enough to understand your wiring and then choosing differently from that awareness.

My work comes alive when I am helping someone understand themselves. This is the place where I drop into a flow state without even trying. It is where the years of my lived experience, the mistakes I made in love, the inner work I had to do, and the intuitive clarity I naturally carry all meet in the same place. Students and clients often tell me it feels like I am saying what they have been feeling for years but never had words for.

I blend psychology with intuition in a way that feels grounded and human. You get real language and real tools you can use right away, not abstract theory or complicated steps. Nothing about this work is scripted or performative. I help you understand the patterns running the show so you can be Securely You. Yes, that’s the name of my podcast, but it is also the point of everything I do.

This is not work to me. This is my zone of genius. It’s where intuition meets understanding, and the clarity just flows.

That’s why I feel so called to bring this work to colleges across the country. Not to teach students how to date, but to help them understand the foundations of connection long before the patterns get deeper and harder to untangle. The earlier you learn how your nervous system and attachment style shape your relationships, the more power you have to create the connections you actually want.

You do not need to overhaul who you are. You just need to understand the patterns running the show.